This is not a controversial subject that shakes the world. It is an exploration of the zone from our front door to the sidewalk.
Single homes are different than multi-family buildings with shared walls and common spaces.
In multi-family dwellings, we have to consider others in our behavior and what we add to the environment in the way of plants and decorations.
If, for example, a neighbor is allergic to certain flowers, then it makes sense that a close neighbor will not put those flowers in that common space. It makes sense for a neighbor to ask the person next door how they feel about a flower or a decoration.
That kind of consideration doesn’t always happen. If it hasn’t and a decoration makes a neighbor uncomfortable, then compromising can bring about a fair solution.
Empathy and kindness. Compromise is difficult, I believe, to reach without them. Being dismissive of a person’s discomfort lacks both empathy and kindness.
The person who is uncomfortable, wants to be fair and compromise has to decide how important to them is what they are asking. Can they find a way to cope? Accept the pain and try to ignore the source? What do they do?
It is bad enough to experience discomfort. The negativity from others, makes it even worse. What can be done is to talk it over with family, friends, a trusted person. Make a decision how to peacefully move forward after exploring alternatives.
Coping with PTSD is much like that, trying to find ways to diminish the discomfort. The world may not always be ideal. There may be things that really bother a person for no reason they can explain or understand.
Have empathy.
Embrace compromise.
Demonstrate kindness
