Last of the Last
The other two Salty Pumpkin blogs, Crafts* and the Cafe, receive so few visitors and comments it makes sense to put them away for now.
I enjoy every comment, and appreciate the visits.
Years ago I posted a page about blog tips and etiquette. I stressed bloggers have their own style; and don't take it personally if their comment style isn't as active as yours.
Since then, I have seen a change in blog commenting style.
In situations where you see a blogger (that you comment on their blog) posting comments on other blogs, paragraph length, that rarely if ever comments on your blog or even leaves a courtesy comment, then your time supporting that blog might be better spent elsewhere.
Not being cordial to you might feel l bad, but it doesn't mean the blogger is a bad person. It means their comment time doesn't include everyone.
In situations where the person's comments are only left for a select few popular bloggers of value, then that reflects on their poor behavior.
The last few months, something feels off to me, not what it use to be (outside my grieving process).
This blog might have run its course. For months I have not been enthusiastic about posting. I enjoy the comments and reading other blogs more than I do posting. I'm tired with waffling about blogging.
I'll post when I post.
* Crafts blog is public.
Please note,
On the blogger's profile page, the blogs the blogger authors are listed under My Blogs.
Blogging shouldn't be a chore. Post when you like. Your posts will show up in my feed and I'll see them.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lorrie
ReplyDeleteA blog rest will be good.
That’s what I do now. I enjoy keeping up with other but posting three times a week which I used to do is, is not an issue for me now.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Lorrie, blogging shouldn’t be a chore. Give yourself time to think. Post what you want and try not to fret over it. I know that is easier said than done:)
ReplyDeleteMarie,
ReplyDeleteFinding a balance will make blogging enjoyable again. Thank you
Whenever you show up in my feed I'll be glad to see you. No need to feel obligated to blog. Just when you're up for it.
ReplyDeleteI've started noting bloggers whose blogs I comment on but who never respond either there or on my blog. So I'm removing them from my feed. For me blogging is a two way street.
Sandy,
ReplyDeleteThinking it over, I've seen others weathering through. Fret free blogging is a good goal. Thank you
YOu have to do what feels right with you. I have felt that I have done all I can do in my blog before but I enjoy the connection I have with my reg blogging friends.
ReplyDeleteLiz,
ReplyDeleteThat surprises me you've noticed similar comment style. I agree with your solution.
Still, it isn't easy to stop reading a blog I like. I go back and check sometimes.
I feel the same Maywyn. It's hurtful to comment and not get even a visit from that blogger. It's like talking but not being listened to in a way....
ReplyDeletePatti,
ReplyDeleteThere are blogs I will always read because the person has a genuine spirit that shines through. Making a connection is tge very best about blogging.
My connection with myself is off, wires jumble, and a bit grumpy lately. I think I need a better produce and protein balance.
Debra,
ReplyDeleteExactly. And that isn't east to not take personally.
Early Jurassic blog period, a blog I commented on, felt a kinship with was not a commenting style blogger. I discoverex she did comment on other blogs, of networking value to her. The rest of us didn't appear to matter.
but....but.....but....I just found you!!
ReplyDeleteI think many people are on Instagram these days, but my little 'ole blog is all I can handle at the moment. I only post once a week, and maybe you can try that as well. I used to post every few days in the beginning, and it was starting to be too much. So, post when you can, and I will be around to visit when you do. : )
ReplyDelete~Sheri
I've always said we own the blog, the blog doesn't own us. Right now I'm going through a tough time -- I can't post, visit, comment or reply as much as I usually do -- and want to. And then hopefully things will get back to normal. So, I know exactly what you mean. And it is odd when you visit someone who never comments or visits back. Most of the time, over time, those blogs fade from my reading. Not always -- but usually.
ReplyDeleteI have built some wonderful online (and even offline) friendships with bloggers through blogging over the years and I value every visit, every comment. But sometimes we all need breaks.
On another note, I don't think I've ever seen or know the urls to your other blogs. Where would I find them? I used to have several blogs and just couldn't handle it. That's when I decided mine was "what it is" (which is a little bit of everything, as you know) and it makes it so much easier. I can just post what I want. Some people don't get into book posts, some don't get into some of the other stuff I do. I get that completely!
Peace Thyme,
ReplyDeleteYour blog is gone, not published. I don't know how to find you.
Sheri,
ReplyDeleteGood idea, thank you
I made a March blog schedule. I am hoping being organized will help me feel less scattered.
Jeanie,
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you are having a rough time. Be good to yourself.
Prayers
Any blog the blogger publishes can be found on their profile page.
One can speculate the balloons over America spread bad vibes. Why things go astray when they once were glowing is part of life. I feel in many cases, a source can be found. It is in the atmosphere.
After reading your post, I then read all the comments. I agree with what many bloggers said that blogging should be enjoyable and not feel like a chore. It always amazes me when bloggers apologize that they did not post the day before.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I would prefer that some do not post daily because as much as I try to read and usually post a comment, there is more to life. I cannot comment on daily blog posts. Years ago when my husband and I started blogging we did do it on a nearly daily basis, but then he turned to other interests and I became the primary blogger. In recent years, I have cut back and now blog no more than 2-3 times weekly, sometimes less. It's not that reading blogs isn't interesting and many bloggers have become unseen friends, but there is only so much time in a day/week.
You should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable, whether it's tang a blog break or stepping down entirely. There should nver be pressure, just enjoyment.
Beatrice
ReplyDeleteThe Seacoast Science Center is on my summer places to visit list. I thoroughly enjoyed your blog post about your trip there.
There is a time to read, and a time to write. At times, I forget to reply to comments because I feel like I just did when posting comments on other blogs. lol
Blogging should be enjoyable ...
ReplyDeletePost when you feel like posting.
Sometimes it's good to have a break.
Take care, my good wishes.
All the best Jan
A blog rest is fine. Come back when you wish.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jan
ReplyDeleteTomorrow I'm starting the day with pancakes. :)
Thank you, William
A rest will be good.
Post when it gives you pleasure ~
ReplyDeleteWishing you good health, laughter and love in your days,
A ShutterBug Explores,
aka (A Creative Harbor)
Thank you, Carol
ReplyDeleteStay warm
Winter is almost over
Sounds like to me you need to pull away and do what is best for you, to chill, to think, to solve, to find you. Sometimes we need time away from things, blogging, Facebooking, hubs, wives, kids, work.....just take some time.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Pam
ReplyDeleteA rest away is a nice way to reorganized, reflect and refresh.
I used to blog more than I do now, but am trying to get back to it! For a while, FB was taking up a bit too much of my time. Since most of my friends/family never even knew I had a blog (didn't want them to really) I would get distracted with the FB feed and Messenger and then not feel up to composing something here. I do find myself thinking a lot about many bloggers though, even though I've never met any, because they've shared so much over the years.
ReplyDeleteI have a couple other blogs but haven't posted to either in over 10 years.
I still make jewelry occasionally, and practice Reiki, but not enough for them to have their own blogs. LOL Probably should deactivate them!
As for comments... I leave longer ones on some, not as much on others. Maybe it depends on whether I have more or less to say on a particular post, or how long I've been connecting with the person, etc. A shorter comment is never meant in bad way. Also, some post very frequently. I might try to catch up and leave a few comments on back posts, but not always. I have no schedule with my own posts, or reading others. Just do what I can.
I've noticed some trouble at Blogger. I'd be signed in on my page, but on others it wasn't recognizing it, so I'd have to post anonymously but w/name/link. That seems to be better now. Also, I've noticed that a few people who used to leave me comments haven't been lately. Whether that's part of a glitch and they aren't getting the notice of a post, or they can't for some technical reason, or they just don't want to, who knows!
I'm fairly new to your blog, but do like it!! And if you continue to post, I'll certainly try to stop by for a bit. :) Now, I've practically left a blog post in your comment box! haha
Have a nice weekend!
~Mary
Thank you, Mary
ReplyDeleteReading about your insightful blogging journey is a pleasure.
The comment slow down you mention, I notice a similar began here in late November.
Mine may be partly due to changing this blog's URL without creating a foward link.
I am glad I found your blog as well. You have a cheery writing style that is a pleasure to read.
Before I forget, I want to say I've never been able to find your Crafts and Cafe blogs. I've assumed you chose to not provide links. I wonder now if I've just been too thick to figure it all out.
ReplyDeleteI go through seasons of not feeling motivated to blog. I rarely feel up to posting every day - I usually only come close to doing that when I've given myself a challenge to do so.
I find daily blog posts difficult to keep up with, so I trust the bloggers who blog daily appreciate when I do stop by. And sometimes take a little time to catch up a bit on their writing. It is healthy to post when and how you want to. Readers will get used to your pattern (or non-pattern) of posting. I look forward to whatever and whenever you post, May. I love your fun posts about finding faces in unexpected places, and posts that show your art processes, and your fun lists that almost always make me think of something I hadn't thought of in some time.
Please do post whenever you want. I have you in my feed so hopefully I won't miss out on something if your posts become less frequent.
Good point, Becki
ReplyDeleteReading does fall into a pattern. It is nice to have that blog reading flow.
There are times of the year when daily posting is easier, like during the winter holidays.
I too am having difficulty finding balance. I'm not a huge fan of IG though I do follow about 15 daily. I delete more monthly than follow new.
ReplyDeleteI try to respond to every comment someone makes to me but don't always follow everyone like I should. If they comment and I haven't been by in awhile I'll pop over and catch up with a couple pages.
Just visiting helps the numbers of the "poster" so there is that. I do miss the early days of blogging and the friendships. I've forged five that remain constant- as close as local pals but it is not the same at all. Funny thing, these five rarely post or closed blog entirely. They strictly do IG and I rarely visit lol
Sue,
ReplyDeleteOld regulars fading is sad. I have seen on other blogs that don't have the comments like in their old days. I've lost a few here.
IG was novel in the beginning, but that didn't last for me. The IG larger reveal of the person doesn't feel secure to me.